Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Knees or Buns

This week, I guest-blogged for a friend of mine at The Kitchen Door.

I met Mrs. M when, as a complete stranger, she commented on Big Harmony. A few back and forths later, it was the beginning of a beautiful cyber-friendship. (We finally met a couple of years ago and she is as lovely in person as in print.) A few months ago, she kindly sent me a book called Bittersweet, a series of essays about a young wife and mother coming to terms with becoming a bona fide adult, spiritually. She asked me to choose a chapter and write about it.

At first, I was (ashamedly) quite dismissive of Bittersweet. The author, Shauna Niequist, is in her twenties and details the heartbreak of losing a job and a few pregnancies. Her subsequent realization that God is with us in the dark places, even in the winter of our discontent, would probably have spoken to me more directly 15 years ago. Although her pain and deliverance are astutely woven into her stories, my first inclination was to think, "Been there. Done that. Nothing to learn here." That is to say, I haughtily ignored her story.

I laid the book down for a few weeks and didn't think much about it. As the deadline for this guest-blogging spot came about, I reread the chapter I had chosen to write about, "Knees or Buns".

It finally struck me. What I had dismissed was not only the importance of Ms. Niequist's writing or experiences...but also mine, from the past and the present. The guest blog details what I humbly learned from a woman almost half my age.

I would like to thank the divine Mrs. M for thinking of me when she started this project. (She is also much younger than me. Lately, this seems to be happening more and more. Dang it.) Despite being quite jealous of her abundance of collagen, I am profoundly grateful for her friendship, wisdom and insistence that the story be written. I hope that you will browse through her blog. She has a enviable knack for getting to the heart of a tangled matter and unravelling it, gracefully and insightfully. Happy Reading!

(And, if you would like my copy of Bittersweet, I'll send it to the first person who comments and asks. For the runners-up, a fabulous consolation prize awaits you. No, really. It's amazing.)


Anonymous said...

I could use some fabulous consolation, please

Anonymous said...

Bring it with you next month and I'll make you a vodka/tonic!

Di said...

I'm laughing, because we characterize so many things so differently. That's not at all what I would have said the book was about, and it's fun to see things through other people's eyes.

Nancy B said...

Ooh, don't leave me in suspense, Di. What jumped out at you the most in this book? I agree with you--perspective makes the world go round. Hearing other people's (when it's really about perspective and not about trying to change others)is just fascinating.

Nancy B said...

Who am I bringing the book to and, more importantly, where's my free vodka and tonic waiting? :)

Di said...

Oh, to me the book was mostly about relationships. Obviously with God, but also how friendships sustain her spiritually. To me, that was the most important part (which, of course, is why I tried to gather women around the book).

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